Are You a Narcissist?
A narcissist has an high sense of their own importance and significance. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest criticism. They also have a deep need for admiration. They also exhibit a lack of empathy for others despite oral assurances to the contrary.
Many who go into public services such as pastoring have strong narcissistic tendencies. These must be kept in check and modified when necessary based on what the Bible requires of every believer let alone a leader.
If others say you have five or more of the following characteristics you need help because you will fail if you don’t first of all understand your own characteristics and secondly diminish them as necessary.
- You have a high sense of self-importance (e.g. exaggerate achievements and talents, expect to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements).
- You are preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power and/or brilliance.
- You believe that you are “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
- You require a lot of admiration.
- You have a very strong sense of entitlement (e.g. unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with your expectations).
- You exploit others (e.g., take advantage of others to achieve your own ends).
- You lack empathy (e.g. are unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others).
- You are often envious of others or believe that others are envious of you.
- You regularly show arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.
If this information makes you squirm a bit, you had better become familiar with it. Google “narcississm” and you will find much to ponder.